{"id":5161,"date":"2020-07-16T15:53:13","date_gmt":"2020-07-16T19:53:13","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/canada-info.ca\/?p=5161"},"modified":"2020-07-16T15:53:13","modified_gmt":"2020-07-16T19:53:13","slug":"cortes-island-womens-centre","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/canada-info.ca\/en\/cortes-island-womens-centre\/","title":{"rendered":"Cortes Island Women&#8217;s Centre"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>By De Clarke<\/p>\n<p>The\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/cortescurrents.ca\/tag\/covid-19-2\/\">Covid-19<\/a>\u00a0lockdown has sparked an upsurge in domestic violence both\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.cbc.ca\/news\/politics\/domestic-violence-rates-rising-due-to-covid19-1.5545851\">in Canada<\/a>\u00a0and\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.theguardian.com\/global-development\/2020\/apr\/28\/calamitous-domestic-violence-set-to-soar-by-20-during-global-lockdown-coronavirus\">worldwide<\/a>, as well as making it harder for support services to offer counseling and shelter for victims.<\/p>\n<p>On April 15, 2020, I interviewed Tanya Henck, founding member of the first\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/cortescurrents.ca\/tag\/cortes-island-womens-centre\/\">Cortes Island Women\u2019s Centre<\/a>\u00a0which opened in January 2019. A combination of diligent sanitization and long microphone cables, plus a newly constructed and never-inhabited space, enabled us to set up for Covid-19-safe recording.\u00a0 (The room was so bare that you may hear a certain amount of natural reverb in the podcast.)<\/p>\n<p><!--more--><\/p>\n<p>Tanya has lived on\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/cortescurrents.ca\/tag\/cortes-island\/\">Cortes Island<\/a>\u00a0for 14 years, and has long been aware of the persistent and under-addressed problem of domestic violence.\u00a0 Every community whether rural or urban has to deal with this issue, she says, and Cortes is no exception.\u00a0 Yet Cortes, she feels, has been for years \u201cbehind the times\u201d in coming to grips with this problem.<\/p>\n<div id=\"attachment_5163\" style=\"width: 810px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><a class=\"dt-pswp-item\" href=\"https:\/\/canada-info.ca\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/3424785708_13d6f2eb03_c.jpg\" data-dt-img-description=\"Photo credit: \u201cDomestic Violence Hurts\u201d by ghetto_guera29 via Flickr (CC BY SA, 2.0 License)\"><img aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-5163\" class=\"size-full wp-image-5163\" src=\"https:\/\/canada-info.ca\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/3424785708_13d6f2eb03_c.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"800\" height=\"600\" srcset=\"https:\/\/canada-info.ca\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/3424785708_13d6f2eb03_c.jpg 800w, https:\/\/canada-info.ca\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/3424785708_13d6f2eb03_c-500x375.jpg 500w, https:\/\/canada-info.ca\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/3424785708_13d6f2eb03_c-287x215.jpg 287w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-5163\" class=\"wp-caption-text\"><em>Photo credit: \u201c<a href=\"https:\/\/www.flickr.com\/photos\/37205795@N03\/3424785708\/in\/photolist-6dCVts-6dCURC-mCWxxv-aRGxL6-7FSi4d-dL6MfH-pCnfXH-cEoZVS-o4TnRB-fxAzRT-PQzSyU-N1ZEwz-k27qCF-k297sj-k29dQ9-9oPmZW-k299aY-k29fx7-k29aLy-5qZVDN-k293FS-omn66Z-k273pH-k29h4J-k26Uma-k27wKR-k26YLn-2is1Mgn-k26SLB-k29nZw-k28Xsf-k28VCU-k28Zd9-EejW-k2928w-k27CwF-k278Fp-k27iTP-k28ScW-k26oiz-cEoY7Y-cEoZ67-5qZVDd-o4SrND-54G8Lk-cEoTAf-omn1UT-ej91Jz-6dyLM4-2hCRAPj\">Domestic Violence Hurts<\/a>\u201d by ghetto_guera29 via Flickr (CC BY SA, 2.0 License)<\/em><\/p><\/div>\n<h4>History of the Women\u2019s Centre project<\/h4>\n<p>Tanya\u2019s desire to support women in crisis led her into contact with what was then Campbell River Transition Society, a charitable organization offering crisis counselling, shelter, and other resources to women and children at risk from domestic violence.\u00a0 When she first set up a table at Friday Market with Transition Society literature, it was new information for islanders.\u00a0 Most people on Cortes, she recalls, didn\u2019t know we were eligible for services provided by CRTS (now\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.annelmorehouse.ca\/\">North Island Transition Society<\/a>).<\/p>\n<p>As a result of that early contact, Transition Society sent outreach workers over every two weeks to offer free and confidential counselling and support for women on Cortes.\u00a0 Tanya tells me that this relationship slowly built over time until a Cortes Island Women\u2019s Resource Centre was the logical next step.<\/p>\n<p>Though it is essentially a \u201cchapter house\u201d of the parent organization, the Cortes initiative is not funded or subsidized by North Island Transition Society.\u00a0 \u201cDonations are pretty much what keeps us going.\u201d\u00a0 NITS has charitable status, and donations to the Society can be earmarked for Cortes Island\u2019s project. \u201cEvery penny that gets brought in for Cortes Island via Transition Society goes directly to us.\u00a0 They don\u2019t take a cut.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Grant funding is sometimes accessible for services or programmes, Tanya tells me, but is hard to come by for basic operational expenses like rent and phone.\u00a0 The Centre has succeeded once in getting temporary assistance via a Grant-in-Aid from SRD, but generally must rely on donations.\u00a0 \u201cAnd we\u2019re running out of money pretty soon\u2026 again.\u201d<\/p>\n<h4>A Resource Centre more than a Crisis Centre<\/h4>\n<p>The Cortes Island Women\u2019s Centre, Tanya emphasizes, is not really a crisis centre.\u00a0 Volunteers staff the centre during scheduled hours, offering services, social events or classes according to their abilities.\u00a0 \u201cWe\u2019ve had writing circles, a seed swap, watercolour painting\u2026 there\u2019s always tea and coffee and some basic food.\u201d\u00a0 Members can access the space at any time.\u00a0 The space is mainly intended for networking and social support.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cWe have free internet, and free long distance to about 60 countries.\u201d\u00a0 It\u2019s not uncommon for abusive partners to deny women access to internet or phone; and the Centre makes those crucial resources available to women who need to (for example) seek help, communicate with family members or get legal advice.\u00a0 The space can also be reserved by members for private use (such as a counselling session).<\/p>\n<p>Volunteers at the centre adhere to a policy of strict confidentiality.\u00a0 As Tanya says, a woman facing violence or bullying in her home can come to the centre knowing that \u201cif you walk through that door, you\u2019re going to be supported, you\u2019re going to be listened to.\u201d\u2014 and also, that her privacy will be respected.<\/p>\n<p>The centre makes literature and contact information from NITS available at all times.\u00a0 Notes from local workshops are also kept as a resource.<\/p>\n<h4>Patterns of Domestic Violence<\/h4>\n<p>Some may question whether an \u201cidyllic\u201d island community like Cortes really\u00a0<em>needs<\/em>\u00a0a resource centre to address domestic violence.\u00a0 I asked Tanya about how many \u201clive\u201d incidents she was aware of in any given year, during her 14 years here.\u00a0 She said on average two or three per year\u2014that she knows about\u2014in which there\u2019s actually been physical violence, legally-defined assault or battery.\u00a0 And are those the same troubled families year after year?\u00a0 No, she said, though sometimes it may be the same abuser, with different women.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cThe women are the ones who leave the island,\u201d says Tanya sadly.\u00a0 \u201cI don\u2019t know of a situation where the woman has felt safe enough to stay on Cortes, and it\u2019s been the abuser who\u2019s left.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Our conversation lasted two hours and covered a lot of ground.\u00a0 We talk about the classic\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.wcfarkansas.org\/cycle-of-domestic-violence\">cycle of violence<\/a>\u00a0in relationships; Tanya explains her firm conviction that violent behaviour springs from unprocessed trauma and a lack of coping skills.\u00a0 \u201cI really believe that until men are receiving help and are healing, women won\u2019t be safe.\u201d\u00a0 We discuss some ways in which men struggling with trauma and anger management issues could get more and better support.<\/p>\n<p>We talk about the special challenges of coping with domestic violence in a rural setting, particularly on a two-ferry island.\u00a0 Tanya answers the commonly-asked question \u201cWhy doesn\u2019t she just leave?\u201d \u00a0 We talk about the slowness of police response in an island community, and the need for a grass-roots and local response.\u00a0 \u201cWe can\u2019t just put this all on RCMP,\u201d says Tanya.<\/p>\n<p>Tanya offers advice for people wanting to help and support a friend if they know or suspect that she is being mistreated at home.\u00a0 From moral support to tangible, practical help, she suggests ways to empower and assist women without \u201cblaming or shaming.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Considerable editing was needed to fit this discussion into the one hour show format.\u00a0 An additional 20 minutes of \u201cextras\u201d is included as a separate mp3 file for those who would like more detail.\u00a0 In it, we discuss\u00a0<em>confidentiality<\/em>\u00a0in more depth; consider the impact of\u00a0<em>social isolation<\/em>; describe some of the\u00a0<em>barriers<\/em>\u00a0than can discourage men from getting help and counseling; and explore some of the\u00a0<em>warning signs<\/em>\u00a0that might indicate caution for women getting into new relationships.<\/p>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed-soundcloud wp-block-embed is-type-rich is-provider-soundcloud wp-embed-aspect-4-3 wp-has-aspect-ratio\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\"><\/div><figcaption>Photo credit: API \u2014\u00a0<em><a href=\"https:\/\/www.bloomberg.com\/news\/articles\/2019-11-23\/paris-protesters-to-march-against-deadly-domestic-violence\">Women in France march<\/a>\u00a0to protest against domestic violence<\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>Despite the serious and often sad nature of the topic, I enjoyed this conversation and hope that listeners will find it interesting, eye-opening, and perhaps even inspiring.<\/p>\n<h4>Contact Information<\/h4>\n<p>Contact\u00a0\u00a0<a href=\"mailto:corteswomenscentre@gmail.com\">corteswomenscentre@gmail.com<\/a>\u00a0or call 250-935-6501 for information, support, or to find out what the Centre needs in the way of volunteer time or donated items.<\/p>\n<p>If you or someone you know is endangered by domestic violence, NITS staffs a 24 hour crisis line. Call\u00a0<strong>250-286-3666\u00a0<\/strong>or\u00a0<strong>800-667-2188<\/strong>\u00a0for support, information, or assistance.<\/p>\n<p>For anyone who would like to contribute to the Cortes Island Women\u2019s Resource Centre (to help pay the rent etc.), there are several channels for doing so. \u00a0 North Island Transition Society has\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.canadahelps.org\/en\/charities\/campbell-river-and-north-island-transition-society\">a donations page at the CanadaHelps website.<\/a>\u00a0(Remember to specify in the Notes that your donation is for Cortes Island in particular.)<\/p>\n<p>There is also a\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.patreon.com\/posts\/bit-of-what-we-33043381\">Patreon page<\/a>\u00a0for the project, allowing recurring donations of as little as $5 per month as well as one-time gifts.<\/p>\n<p>Donations over $25 whether via Patreon or NITS are tax deductible.<\/p>\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator\" \/>\n<p><em>Top photo credit:\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.texasvalley.va.gov\/TEXASVALLEY\/features\/October_2018_is_Domestic_Violence_Awareness_Month.asp\">Intimate partner violence (IPV) isn\u2019t always physical violence. Controlling behavior can have negative impacts on relationships too.<\/a>\u00a0\u2013 U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs graphic<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>By De Clarke The\u00a0Covid-19\u00a0lockdown has sparked an upsurge in domestic violence both\u00a0in Canada\u00a0and\u00a0worldwide, as well as making it harder for support services to offer counseling and shelter for victims. On April 15, 2020, I interviewed Tanya Henck, founding member of the first\u00a0Cortes Island Women\u2019s Centre\u00a0which opened in January 2019. 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